This blog was originally written in 2011 but it still holds true today.
Some of the most endearing moments I have witnessed as an obstetrician involved observing men in the labor room. There was the Jewish dad from Brooklyn who brought his Anita Baker tape and played it while his wife was in labor. Because she was one of my favorite artists, I was constantly in their room under the guise of watching the fetal monitor, just so that I could listen to the music. Another memorable moment was the dad who cried tears of joy when his wife was returned back to her room after having a c. section. The love and admiration that beamed in his eyes almost tempted me to ask him if he had a friend (this was of course when I was single). The point is, that expectant dads can play a significant role in helping their wives or girlfriends have a healthy babies. Hereâ€™s how:
- Remind the babyâ€™s mother to make certain she feels the baby move at least 4 or more times in one hour.
- Make sure she knows what her blood pressure is at each prenatal visit
- Make sure she keeps all of her prenatal appointments
- Make certain her hospital bag is packed and she has all her important papers in one specific location
- Ask permission to be in the labor room with her so that you can witness the birth of your child. It is a scene you will never forget and will bring you closer together as a couple.
- Please donâ€™t cheat on her while sheâ€™s pregnant. You could give her an unwanted sexually transmitted infection
- Encourage her to push when itâ€™s time
- Rub her back in between contractions
- Take notes when sheâ€™s in labor. If thereâ€™s a change of shift, make sure that the new shift knows what went on during the previous shift; particularly if sheâ€™s having complications such as high blood pressure or fetal distress on the monitor. One of the greatest risks of OB medical malpractice is miscommunication or a lack of communication during shift changes. The proverbial left-hand doesn’t always know what the right hand is doing.
- If the nurses become concerned about the babyâ€™s fetal tracing, ask that the doctor or midwife come to the hospital immediately.
The active participation of an expectant father is priceless. In the words of an old R&B classic by the Winstons, â€œ. . . color him father; color him love.â€ Happy Fatherâ€™s Day.